The world as we know it has cultivated a “disposable” way of thinking. Things are made cheaply and available at the click of a button. If something breaks, it’s cheaper and easier to get a new one than to fix it. And hey, even if it doesn’t break, we can get a newer model in a few months anyway.
Most of us live busy lives, overflowing with to-do lists and problems to solve. Insert a screaming child into the mix and you have an instant recipe for disaster. In these moments, all we want is a quick fix. We want the tantrum to stop. We want the child to calm down. We want them to be more respectful! We may even be wondering, “how do I fix my child’s behaviour?”
But here’s the important thing:
The child isn’t broken.
Behaviour such as screaming, crying, back chat, whining, hitting, biting, and everything in between is not a fault, a weakness, or even misbehaviour. All behaviour has one goal; to send a message. If we can decode this message and identify the need behind it, we can be better prepared to respond.
Children do not need fixing. Children need understanding.
When we learn about behaviour and development, and as our understanding deepens, we can see the messages with clarity, which clears the debris from our parenting journey and allows for smoother sailing.